A note on sticking up for yourself.

Your boundaries are for YOU to create and keep. Just because ‘everyone is fine with it’, doesn’t mean you have to be (and also, that may not be true).

I hear you now: ‘oh but I don’t want to make a fuss’ and ‘it’s not really a big deal anyway’. But if something makes you uncomfortable, shouldn’t you be allowed to express that? Why are you less important than the other people in the situation?

I’m a big believer in telling your surroundings when things don’t feel right, so you can work on a solution together. Or, they show you who they really are. Both of those outcomes are valuable.

Setting a boundary could look like walking away, and maybe talking about it later. It could be saying ‘I don’t want to answer that’, or ‘this makes me uncomfortable’. It could even be blocking a troll online. You don’t have to accept nonsense, be it online or in real life.

You deserve to stick up for yourself. And if you can’t safely do so right now, know that that’s valid too. I am happy you are here.